Things Wives Will Never Understand About Their Husbands 

The Thing About Our Mumbling Monotone
The way we say "I love you" sounds flat and weird and robotic, but that doesn't mean we don't love you. We just sound like a robot. But we are not a robot. Because, hopefully, you would not have married a robot. But you might have married a man who sounds an awful lot like one. The One Place We'll Always Bomb Out
The supermarket. We can never be inventive enough. We are happy to do the shopping, but we will buy recycling bags and new sponges, Raisin Bran and peanut butter and... nothing fun ever. We're sorry. When You Need to Lie (And When You Don't)
We like being told that we look good on the way out the door before a dinner party just as much as any woman does—even if we are wearing a plaid shirt and a tweed blazer in a way that does not read as "fun." We also will need to be told if we smell bad and that we should go do something about it because knowing we smell bad doesn't necessarily trigger a need in us not to smell bad. So just tell us to go take a shower and then hide the outfit and say we must've lost it. We'll believe you. What to Do About Race-Walking Strangers in the Airport
Why do we need to beat random people on the walking escalator— even people who are going to a different gate? Why did we leave you behind? Unless we actually lose you, please, please, let it go. Our competitive nature is embarrassing and quite dumb, but we can't get free of it, and telling us about it won't make it go away. The Truth About That Look
Take any random afternoon. We are glaring. We are frowning. We have been silent for two hours. It does not mean we have stopped loving you. We're just driving the car or wondering why someone we report to hates us or missing Led Zeppelin and wondering if My Morning Jacket is the new Zeppelin and perhaps we're too old for that music but should we embrace it anyway if we had more time, if we were more comfortable with the Cloud and digital music... We are really getting worked up. But it's not about you. We love you. And we are not going to tell you why we were so unhappy-looking just now because we are embarrassed about it, and now that you've asked twice, the truth is we can't remember, and we are not going to admit that, either. Our Secret Turn-On
Pilly cotton underwear. Both intimate and sexy. Our Secret View on Change
Just because we don't try new things (teal sweaters, two-week cruises with our in-laws, soy milk) doesn't mean we're against trying new things. We might say we want spaghetti with meatballs the size of grapefruits, but if you say "Why don't we make a kale salad instead?" we are going to eat it and like it just as much. We are grown-up now, and we know what's good for us even if it's not the first thing we pull out of the fridge. Why We Think Being Silent Helps
Because if we're not talking, we can't say something critical or annoying. We will never understand that being silent can seem critical or annoying. Because we are not talking! What We Most Want You to Know
We know there are things you do that we take for granted and don't celebrate enough (like waking up with our baby and feeding him breakfast far, far more than we'd like to admit), and we also know we think it's a big deal when we tell you you're beautiful, when that's something we can never tell you enough times. We know that taking the big chores you do for granted while always remembering to tell you we love you and think you're astonishing will never balance out, but every single time, we are going to hope, foolishly, that somehow, it will.

Truths Women Have to Learn the Hard Way

1. You have a good girl and a bad girl inside you, and the good girl is usually the one who gets you into trouble.

The good girl waits to be called on. She takes no for an answer. She doesn't want to disturb anyone. She carries maturity and good citizenship to the point of paralysis. She holds herself in check, tells herself, "Don't you dare." The bad girl dares. The bad girl shocks me, and I have a lot to thank her for. She said, "I love you," and she said it first. She said, "I quit this job." She said, "I've been working on this book for eight years and it stinks and I'm throwing out the manuscript and starting over." When I look back at the things I regret—the jobs I wanted and didn't go after, the editors with whom I never got in touch, the misunderstandings I didn't try to clear up, the interesting people I never talked to—I can see how often the good girl was in charge: cautious and correct, and wrong.

2. Sooner or later one of those "How can she stand it?" things is going to happen to you, and you'll stand it.

My father's suicide. Without warning, on a February morning when he was 61.

3. Having one "How can she stand it?" thing happen does not protect you from more things happening.

A year after my father died, my mother was diagnosed with advanced colon cancer. Along with the fear and grief and rage, I felt a sense of cosmic unfairness, as if the universe had lost track of the quota and given our family more than its share of pain. The hard truth is: There is no quota. You can get hit once, twice, or ten times, clustered together or spaced far apart. It's one thing to know intellectually that anything can happen; it's another to actually feel the chaotic vulnerability of life, which for me didn't come with the first terrible occurrence, but rather with the second.

4. Sometimes the only answer is "Who knows?"

My mother's surgeon said this, when I asked him about her prognosis. I wanted to hug him, even while I believed that deep down he knew that she was going to die. But she went through surgery and chemo and she didn't die, though the next few years were terrifying. Learning to live with uncertainty is one of the hardest things I've ever had to do, and I'm continually having to re-learn it. But there is also something deeply lovely about uncertainty: the possibility of optimism. If the story of the future truly isn't written yet, who's to say it won't end well?

5. Your mother is tough, but not immortal.

My mother died 16 years later at the age of 82, from causes unrelated to cancer.

6. If you can't take it or leave it, you might have to leave it.

For me it was flour and sugar. I gave them up more than a decade ago. Sometimes I miss them. But not enough to take back all the bad stuff—the bewilderment and shame of trying, and failing, to be moderate; the 80 extra pounds—that went along with them.

7. Love doesn't always color inside the lines.

It is possible to be attracted to a man who is not your husband, even when you are happily married. Ugh. I don't even want to include this one. But I guess that's what makes it a hard truth. I have one married friend who admits, frankly and cheerfully, that she sometimes develops crushes. The rest of us don't admit it. We hide it and feel embarrassed and disloyal and guilty. You don't have to do anything about these feelings, but maybe it helps to know that other people have had them too. The bad girl knows it's okay to write about this honestly. The good girl knows not to act on it. And in this case, they are both right.

Body Language Tips to Get His Attention

 

It can be difficult to convey just how interested you really are in a guy, sometimes. Whether it's because you're at a crowded bar, or just a little shy, it's not always so easy to find the right words. Luckily, you're body can do the talking. Here's how to say everything you need to, without saying a word. 

To show him you’re having a good time:

Touch his hand lightly and briefly. This is a great move to incorporate while striking up a conversation so he knows you're interested and really listening. To make it seem more natural, touch his hand lightly when emphasizing a point you're making in conversation. At the same time, do not shift your weight from foot to foot. This makes you appear bored, and it's rude. 

To get him to ask for your number:

You've met a cute guy while out and would love to keep chatting him up, but your friends are ready to leave. How do you let him know you're serious? Face him, with your feet pointing toward his. It makes it really clear you'd like to see him again. On the other hand, standing off to his side with your lower body faced away gives the impression that you're not interested and trying to distance yourself. 

To make a move on a guy friend:

If you're really trying to cross these tricky waters and go into "something more" territory with a guy friend, you've got to play it carefully. Don't get overly touchy. He might be taken aback or even interpret it as sisterly if you're constantly hugging him. Instead, draw his attention to your feminine features, like your face and neck. Sweep your hair off to the side, or play with your necklace. 

To get his attention from across the room:

If you're scoping out your next boyfriend at happy hour, you've got to do more than just stand there hoping he makes the first move. After you've spotted him from across the room, let him know you're interested with a big smile and eye contact. Most girls know that a little pruning, like playing with our hair gives off the vibe that we're interested, but it is far too subtle from far away. So, go big or go home, alone that is.

Ways Men Show They Love You

  We all know that men and women are different! One of the major differences is that most men show their affection through their actions not their words. Quite the opposite, most women show their affection through their words. This major difference creates many issues for women who fail to understand men's nature and mentality when it comes to showing their affection. Below is a list of examples how men show their love and affection.

    1.    He includes you in his future plans.

    2.    He doesn't spend money on luxury items, because he thinks they are too expensive. But he would buy a luxury item for you on a very special occasion.

    3.    He won't just go watch TV after dinner, he will take out the trash and wash dishes for you.

    4.    He always tries his best to keep his promises.

    5.    He doesn't mind you using and browsing his computer because he has nothing to hide.

    6.    He encourages you to do anything that pleases you.

    7.    When you are having a mood swing, he will try to comfort and pamper you.

    8.    He is willing to go to a market and buy tampons for you when it is necessary.

    9.    He thinks you are cute when you are acting and being hysterical.

    10.    He is willing to watch a chick flick with you even if he hates it with passion.

    11.    When you told him you are feeling insecure, he will take it very seriously and take actions.

    12.    He hugs you all the time.

    13.    He kisses you all the time.

    14.    When he is having sex with you, it feels like making love.

    15.    He feels sorry when he works overtime because he cannot be with you.

    16.    He tells you "I love you" every single day.

    17.    Everything he does, he does it for you.

    18.    When you are alone you don't feel lonely, because you know his heart is always with you.

    19.    When you are upset, he truly cares about why.

    20.    If he missed your call, he will call you back as soon as he can.

    21.    He doesn't bother you about your past, he lets the past be in the past.

    22.    When he has a business trip, he wants to take you with him.

    23.    He remembers everything you said.

    24.    You look taller than him when you wear high heels, but he doesn't mind.

    25.    He doesn't let you do all the house cleaning, he is more than willing to help.

    26.    When you are sick, he will stay by your side.

    27.    When there is an earthquake he will hold you tight in his arms.

    28.    He thinks you look pretty without makeup.

    29.    When you and him are talking heart to heart, he cries happy tears.

    30.    He gets jealous whenever you are talking to other men.

    31.    When you and him are fighting, he always apologize first.

    32.    He doesn't mind when you try to give him a hickey on his chest.

    33.    He gives you compliments all the time.

    34.    He is willing to spend his leisure time to fix your computer for you.

    35.    When you did something wrong, he tries his best to let it go.

    36.    When there is a long vacation, he will include you in his vacation plan.

    37.    He brings you your favorite flowers.

    38.    He shows you his vulnerable side that his friends never knew about.

    39.    He has your pictures in his cell phone

    40.    When he is sick, he won't let you drink from his glass.

    41.    He remembers your favorite song and movie.

    42.    He calls you by that cute nickname that he gave you.

    43.    No matter what happens, he is always on your side.

    44.    When someone is rude to you, he will stand up and defend you.

    45.    He is willing to go grocery shopping with you, even if you take more than 40 minutes browsing.

    46.    He is willing to go the mall with you, even if it takes hours to find a dress.

    47.    He surprises you with a pair of Celine Dion concert tickets, even though he hates her music with passion.

    48.    He surprises you with a necklace that you always wanted.

    49.    Whenever he is having his favorite dessert, he shares it with you.

    50.    He gets upset when you sleep late, because he worries about your heath more than anything.

    51.    He always holds your hand in public.

    52.    He is willing to carry your purse when your arms are sore, even though he thinks it is embarrassing.

    53.    He doesn't complain when you have gained weight.

    54.    When you arrive late on your date, he still smiles.

    55.    He doesn't yell at you.

    56.    He never lays his hands on you during arguments.

    57.    He compliments you in front of his friends.

    58.    When he is going to hang out with his friends, he invites you to come along.

    59.    When you ask him over and over about his feelings, he doesn't get impatient.

    60.    When you are being paranoid towards his friendship with his female friends, he is willing to explain.

    61.    When you play chess, he always let you win on purpose.

    62.    He won't force you to have sex when you told him you are exhausted from a hard day's work.

    63.    When he goes out with his friends, he will always pack some snacks for you.

    64.    He doesn't turn his cell phone on silent when he is with you.

    65.    When you cook for him, he will finish everything.

    66.    He is willing to watch Sex and City with you, even if he hates with passion.

    67.    He wears the ring you bought for him, everyday.

    68.    He spoils you because he loves you.

    69.    When he doesn't like the way you dress, he will remind you but he never criticizes you.

    70.    He never forgets your birthday.

    71.    He never forgets your anniversary.

    72.    He will always give you something on Christmas and Valentine.

    73.    When you are jealous, he is willing to take time to explain.

    74.    When you and him have an argument, he is willing to back down even if he was right.

    75.    He tells that you are irreplaceable.

    76.    When you are promoted at work, he is happier than you are.

    77.    He never pressures you to do anything you don't want to do.

    78.    He puts your feelings before his own.

    79.    When he is exhausted, he is still willing to listen to your feelings.

    80.    When there is an issue, he is willing to communicate.

    81.    If something comes up and he has to cancel the date, he will make it up to you.

    82.    He doesn't get angry when you miss his call.

    83.    When his mother doesn't like you, he defends you.

    84.    When his mother is being rude to you, he will try to defend you.

    85.    He downloads your favorite music for you.

    86.    When you cancel your date to go out with your girlfriends, he will understand.

    87.    He cuddles you to sleep.

    88.    He kisses you good morning and good night.

    89.    He lets you know that your happiness is his happiness.

    90.    When you have done something wrong, if he forgives you, he will never mention it again.

    91.    He is willing to show he is in a relationship on his Facebook.

    92.    He doesn't mind letting you know his Facebook account password.

    93.    He won't let you carry any heavy object, he will carry it for you.

    94.    When he goes clubbing, he will not go without you.

    95.    When he goes out drinking, he wants you to come along.

    96.    He will always treat you with respect. Even during arguments.

    97.    He will call you on his trip to check if you are doing ok, and to let you know he is ok.

    98.    He doesn't mind when you ask about his work schedule.

    99.    When something wonderful happens, you are the first person he wants to share the good news.

    100.    He showers you with love, tenderness, and patience.

    101.    He is willing to go out his way to please you.

You should consider yourself lucky if your man does most of the above. A good man is hard to find, and when you found one, don't ever let him go! One of the best and most effective ways to make a good man stay is to give him your love, admiration, support, and your genuine appreciation. When a good man shows a woman his true love, a good woman would understand the fine art of give and take, as she will give her man her true love, support and appreciation in return. This is one of the keys to an everlasting love and relationship.

Romantic Hacks for Relationship Ruts and Dilemmas

 So, you've heard of life hacks that will change the way you live. But do you know the relationship hacks that will change the way you love? Thanks to advice from users, I've put together eight of the most romantic ways you can be more thoughtful in your relationship. Read on, and get ready to score some major points with your significant other.
When he isn't spontaneous enough.
"Set yourself a recurring calendar alert that goes off every 26 days. When it goes off, buy your girlfriend/wife flowers. It's a weird enough number that it seems totally spontaneous each time you do it, and she'll never catch on."
When you're really hard to buy gifts for. "
My parents will have been married 47 years on the 20th. This is my dad's hack. Whenever they are out and he sees my mother eye something she likes in a store (a dress or jewelry), he makes a mental note, then returns the next day or week and purchases the item. He then stashes it in a crumpled up brown paper bag either in his dresser or his truck. At Christmas, I get asked to wrap gifts for him and he hands me 10 crumpled bags. My mother is always amazed at how well he knows what she likes." 

When he never notices your new haircut.
"I know a guy who has a standing $10 tip with his wife's hair dresser. He gets a call each time his wife gets her hair cut with a brief description of what was done. Wife walks in the door, he says, 'Honey, did you get your hair done? It's a bit shorter and looks great!' Winners all around."
When you're PMSing.
"Hide chocolate around the house in random places. When girlfriend is PMSing, crampy, hormonal, and miserable and calls at work to complain about feeling terrible, tell her to look behind the silverware tray, under the couch cushion, behind the plant, etc. Instant comfort, and it shows that you care enough to go to the trouble to prevent problems before they happen."When one of you hates PDA.
"I have never been one for public displays of affection. My girlfriend (now wife) is big into PDA. She would often complain that I never told her I loved her in public or shared a kiss or hug. I always held her hand and felt this was enough in public. She disagreed. So my solution was to discreetly show her my feelings by squeezing her hand twice and she would reply with squeezing my hand. I explained to her that two hand squeezes meant 'love you' and three squeezes meant 'love you, too.' This quickly caught on and we have been doing this for eight years now. She hasn't complained yet about lack of PDA. As a bonus, when we married, my wife purchased my wedding ring with 'squeeze squeeze' engraved inside."  

When you have a major f*ck up.
"An exceptionally good time to buy a woman flowers is when she f*cks up. A week after my dad bought a new car my mom scratched up the side of it on a cement pillar in a parking garage. She was obviously mortified. My dad comes home from work like a boss, a dozen roses in his hands. My mom has been telling this story for 20 years now."
When you're having a bad day/argument.
"I write sometimes, usually in large chunks. When I'm feeling inclined to do so I'll write a huge batch of poems in an evening, stash them in my laptop somewhere, and dish them out to her one by one every now and then. We've been dating for two-and-a-half years, and I probably have about 100 or so I still haven't used. She is very pleased, and it usually brightens her day/diffuses angry situations when she receives a nice handwritten note. Even if I'm angry, there's nice words I've written when my head was in a better place."
When you don't feel appreciated.
"From male perspective:

• Have a stash of gifts ready at any moment.

• When she tells you her problems, don't give her advice. Just listen.

• Have a moment of gratitude with her everyday and let her know something about her that you really appreciate."