I'm warning you, if you take one step closer, I'm never letting you go.



What's wrong

with endings?

Life goes through many phases, each of  which ends to give way to another. We may not  realise it then, but later when we join the dots, it is clear how each ending paved the way for a new begining

Every relationship comes with an expiry date and when it is time for it to end, there are distinct signs that point towards the same. Now, it is another matter wether we choose to heed these or not. Of  course, the ending may not necessarily always mean a physical seperation, as in case of blood relationships or a marriage, but definitly a phase ends to enable the start of another.

It is difficult for us to accept endings even though the only certainity about anything in life is the inevitability of its expiry. And so sometimes, even when it stares us in the face, we refuse to accept that a relationship has played itself out. It often happens that one person accepts the finality earlier than the other. This can be a traumatic experience foe the one left behind.

Early signs of expiry appear when a relationship starts giving us more stress and pain, than happiness. You may have tried everything and yet not been able to get it back on the footing you desire. The old tricks do not help get back the magic of earlier days. And when this starts distressing you so much that it affects your peace of mind and hurts your dignity, it it certainly time to end the relationship.

Women take longer to let go as they nurture and preserve a relationship and tries to patch things before she accepts the inevitable. A man is quicker to accept the expiry date and finds it a waste of  time and energy to hang in there longer. So he cuts his losses as he would with business and walks out. That does not mean that he hurts any less, just that he accepts the inevitable faster.

What is true of relationships is true of other things in life as well. For instance job. Nobody may throw you out, nor any circumstances make you particularly uncomfortable, but you may still realise that it is time to walk out of the job you are holding presently. You have learnt what you could here and are raring to go to another place and earn some more. The choice could be yours, or suddenly you may get thrown out.

Life goes through many phases, each of which ends to give way for another. We may not realise it then, but later when we join the dots, it is clear how each ending paved the way for a new begining, and so life moved on towards its destined goal, with us picking up new experiences and learnings along the way. When APPLE CEO, Steve Jobs got fired from the company he built, he was stunned, but years later he was to say,"I didn't see it then, but it turned out that getting fired from Apple was the best thing that could ever have happened to me. The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner again, less sure of myself." In the next five years, he started a company called NeXt and another called Pixar and met the woman he married. And the rest, as they say, is history. 

 And of course the greatest ending of all is the inevtability of life itself ending in Death. Steve Jobs has been in the news recently with conjuctures that he is terminally ill. And I am inspired to quote extensively from the very inspiring and uplifting 2005 Stanford Commencement Speech of this iconic man.

"If you live each day as if it was your last, some day you will most certainly be right.", he qouted to great applause. "For the past 33 years I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself if the day were the last in my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today? And when the answer has been 'No' for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.

"Remembering that I would be dead soon is the most important tool I have encountered to help me make the right choices in life. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose."

"No one wants to die and yet death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that's as it should be because Death is very likely the single best invention of life. It is life's change agent. It clears up the old to make way for the new."

"Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma, don't let the noise of others' opinion drown your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you want to become. Everything else is secondary."

And so, waht's wrong with endings? Nothing if you look at them as new beginings! And rather than regretting them, get on with the rest of your life!



5 Signs He Thinks You're The One

Forget asking your boyfriend how he feels about your future together — that conversation just freaks guys out! Instead, learn to read the signals. If you've noticed any of these telling behaviors, it's official — the guy thinks you're wifey material.

1. He wants to spend the holidays with you — wherever that takes him.
If he's willing to forgo his childhood traditions and chill at your parents' place — or skip family time altogether and take a trip with you — that means he's been thinking about creating new traditions and memories with you.

2. He invites you to his best friend's wedding — without being pushed.
Watching a close buddy walk down the aisle is a momentous occasion. And he wouldn't want to share that with just any girl, especially since there are bound to be plenty of "So, are you two next?" comments. If your man invited you (and he seems psyched to have you there), chances are he foresees the possibility of you two walking down the aisle in the future.

3. He drops the phrase "our kids".
Not to man-bash, but most guys have a hard time even thinking about starting a family until they meet the right girl. Saying something as seemingly minor as, "We wouldn't let our kids be that rude" means he's not only imagining it, he's expecting it to happen. And the thought doesn't send him running off to his man cave.

4. He's cried in front of you.
Whether he’s shed tears while watching The Notebook or because his dog died, he feels like he can be vulnerable around you. Taking off his macho nothing-can-hurt-me armor shows that he’s not afraid of being himself. If he doesn't try to hide it or act embarrassed, that could mean he’s envisioning going through a lot of ups and downs with you by his side. And he wants to be sure you’re cool with seeing his not-so-manly moments.

5. He's suddenly very responsible about finances.
Men tend to feel like they should be in a good place, money-wise before settling down with a woman. (Sure, it sounds old school, but it's true.) So if he seems more concerned with getting that promotion, contributing to his savings account, and opening a 401k, that's a sign he wants to be able to support someone in the near future (ahem, you).

How to Be a Total Man-Magnet

Wingtip #1: Go out in groups of no bigger than three.
Larger groups of girls are supertough (read: intimidating) to approach. Three is a good number because your two friends can keep each other company when a guy walks up to chat with you.

Wingtip #2: Hold a drink in your hand.
Guys don’t want to be used. Meaning: They don’t want to buy you a drink right off the bat. My clients and I used to look for the girl with half a cocktail. That way, if she finishes her beverage while chatting with my guy, he could offer to buy her another to keep things moving. 

Wingtip #3: Smile genuinely.
So obvious, right? But I can’t stress it enough — and I can’t believe I ever acted aloof in an attempt to seem sexier. Now I know that women smile all the time naturally (when we’re nervous, when we’re trying to be polite, etc.), so if you don’t do it at all, you look like an unapproachable bitch.

Wingtip #4: Work the eye contact.
To reel him in from across the room, tilt your chin down a bit and flash him a couple of sultry glances. (Guys love it when you look up at them — it makes them feel manly.) If the guy across the room is so gorgeous you have a hard time looking straight at him and are simply too nervous, fake it by focusing on the tiny area right between his eyes. He won't be able to tell the difference.

Wingtip #5: Don’t immediately ask him what he does.
Some men think all women are gold diggers. A lot of my clients hated being asked what their job is. It’s that fear-of-being-used thing again.

Wingtip #6 Make positive small talk.
Once I started studying other women, I couldn’t believe how negative some of us appear. When you’re out on the town, you’re supposed to be having fun, and any complaint (“It’s hot in here!”), pessimism (“There will definitely be another terrorist attack”), or snarky quip (“Look at that chick’s belt — so 2002!”) pretty much pokes a hole in the fun-girl aura you should be projecting. Some better small-talk topics: recent vacations, favorite bands, hilarious movies. You can hit him with your deep, dark world-view some other time.



Live the Life You Want!

By Sanchita R

Wish you could worry less, relax more, and go after that big goal you've been thinking about for a while? Use these genius techniques and everything will start to fall into place...

No matter how well things are going, there are probably a few things you wish you could change about your life. Maybe it's landing a promotion, finally writing that book, or starting a workout routine. Well, consider this article your friendly nudge to get the ball rolling finally. To help you out, we enlisted Jim Fannin, a US-based in-demand life strategist. He's coached tonnes of CEOs and professional athletes, and helped them take steps towards achieving their goals. Now he's sharing his best tips with you. Each one is a mental trick designed to keep you on track so you can feel happier than ever.

Think backwards

Normally, when you make a game plan, whether it's how you're going to get a promotion or save for a vacation, you think about what you need to do first and go from there. Totally logical...except it rarely works. It's a mental thing. When your brain sees a to-do list like that, it subconsciously thinks, 'Shit, I have a long way to go' — especially when the first steps are boring and difficult. As a result, most people get overwhelmed and quit.

But if you think backwards - making a list from point B to point A - your plan appears more appealing and doable instead of threatening. So let's say you want to train for a 5-kilometer race. Start your list with "Cross the finish line. Then write down the steps you'll take to get to the beginning. Maybe as you near your goal, you'll be running for half an hour, but at the start, you'll plan to run/walk for just 20 minutes. Yes, this list will be just as long, but because the fun and exciting final steps are right up at the top, you'll feel more motivated every time you look at it."

Daydream...a lot

Once you have a strategy, the next step is to see and feel it actually happening in your head. Take time out and think of the moment that you are planning in the near future. Maybe it's learning to play guitar, or getting that dream job. Or it could be something more shortterm, like having an awesome first date with a guy you like.

Now close your eyes and envision it happening, as if you were watching a movie - except you're going to go through the scenes backwards. See yourself at the end of the date having a mind-blowing goodnight kiss - really imagine what his lips feel like. Then jump back one scene in your head, and see the easy chat over dinner. Jump back again and envision the grin on his face when you first sit down at the table. Keep going all the way back to the first moment of the date. Do this several times before the big night for just 90 seconds - that's all it takes to get the benefits.

This technique soothes your nerves, since you've 'practiced' the evening in your head, and it also tricks you into feeling confident. In your mind, you've been there, done that...and gotten the guy. This technique works even for the more serious events in your life. For instance, before going in for that big interview, rehearse the possible questions that you may be asked, and your answers to them. So, even when you are asked something a little different, you can tweak the answer around a bit and sound really confident.

Do it in the Dark

Okay, so visualising is a crucial tool... but it's not just what you imagine; it's when you imagine that matters too. The best time to visualise is actually during the last 30 minutes before bed, since whatever you think about then will likely sink into your mind as you sleep. So let's say your goal is to write a novel. Make visualising yourself as a published author (you're going on book tours, signing copies of your novel, doing interviews on TV) a part of your nightly routine, just like brushing your teeth. You don't have to do it for an entire half an hour. Just think about it for 90 seconds during that window.

When you do this, your mind is subconsciously conditioned to think of your goal not as a pipe dream but as an everyday reality that you can—and will - achieve. When you are constantly thinking of your goal, your brain will slowly get conditioned to take those steps that are required to change the dream into reality.

Reboot your brain

When your computer freezes because you have too many programmes running at the same time, what's the first thing you do? Hit restart. The screen goes blank, and the computer starts up again with no glitches. When you're stressed out, you need to do the same thing to your brain. Sadly, we don't come with an on/off button, but there is a technique you can use to get the same effect. Once again, it only takes 90 seconds: close your eyes, relax your jaw (it helps get rid of tension), and let your mind go black, like a blank computer screen. Breathe deeply, taking at least five long inhales and exhales, wiping every thought from your mind. When you're finished, you'll feel less frazzled and ready to start in again on your day with a new vigour.

Be like a palm tree

Yeah, it sounds like a lame assignment from a high school drama class. But think about it: have you ever noticed an oak tree on a beach? Nope, and that's because a hurricane would snap an oak in two - it's way too rigid to withstand the force. A palm tree, on the other hand, is strong yet flexible. It bends with the wind, and as a result, it's more likely to survive. And that's exactly how successful people approach life. When you encounter a challenge, the secret to coming out on top is being flexible.

That means going with the situation, not resisting it. When you're having a crappy day, say to yourself 'Okay, this sucks...but I can handle it. I'm not going to break'. Thinking like this accomplishes two things: it instantly makes you feel in control, since you're facing the situation instead of wallowing in denial or anger, and it replaces a negative thought with a positive one. For example, if your boss criticises you, don't stew over it. Instead, acknowledge that it happened, and take from the situation whatever helpful lesson you can. Then simply forget about the rest. That way, you're able to move on, so you can kick ass the next time.

Look up!

Positive thinking is great, but it's impossible to do it every single minute of every day. And that's okay. It's a given that you're going to have bad days. What matters is how you deal. The next time a negative thought pops into your head, take a second and close your eyes. Then tilt back your face so it points at the ceiling (with your eyes still shut), and attempt to keep that thought in your mind. Try doing it now. It's surprisingly hard, right? It takes a few seconds for your head to adjust to the new position, and whatever you were fretting about will suddenly go out of focus. Pretty soon, things will start to, well, look up.

'This force, which is the best thing in you, your highest self, will never respond to any ordinary half-hearted call, or any milk-and-water endeavor, It can only be reached by your supremest call, your supremest effort. It will respond only to the call that is backed up by the whole of you, not part of you; you must be all there in what you are trying to do. You must bring every particle of your energy, unanswerable resolution, your best efforts, your persistent industry to your task or the best will not come out of you. You must back up your ambition by your whole nature, by unbounded enthusiasm and a determination to win which knows no failure... Only a masterly call, a masterly will, a supreme effort, intense and persistent application, can unlock the door to your inner treasure and release your highest powers.'



❤ Surrender to this moment ❤ Release anger
Accept things as they are right now not how I'd like them to be ► Acceptance.
☆ What is responsibility?
✔ You get in touch with your own feelings, your own emotions
☆ No one can hurt me unless I give them permission to do so. (question of letting the EGO go)



♥ " You know you're in love when you will do anything for that person, but all they ask of you is to love them in return. "♥



A fun loving story shared by—Anupama.

Opposites? Yeah!! No word can describe the two of us any better. I joined his school in 11th and we started off being just friends. He was this cool dude, and I was the geek. He is the soul of the class, and I, the silent observer. Things somehow worked in favour of us and we fell in love. And that’s when the perfect mismatch started. Be it our takes on food, clothes or even life, we just DO NOT agree at the same thing. I am the expressive lover and he, the "feel it if u can" kind. I am the party animal, he the silent "lets stay at home" person. I am the chatterbox and he, the ever silent movie you don't even know about. I m a fanatic reader and he stays away from anything that’s even remotely close to books. I am the dreamer, the "patang" in the sky, and he is my "manjha", the ever pragmatic and steady stability. He loves Bhindi, I hate it. He is a morning person and I, a night lover. I believe words are the best way to express, and he the staunch follower of "actions speak louder than words”. I am the one shouting "Break Up" when I feel like and he is the one calming me down always. I don’t know how and why we connect, but we do and it’s a wonderful feeling. Fire and Ice can come together and when they do, they melt together in a beautiful feeling called love and neither of the two remained the way they used to be. The same happened with us, no matter how different we may be, we are crazily and madly in love. Four and a half years and still going strong! * Touchwood *



when i am with you

if he doesn't want me in his life, then I don't need him in my world



if he doesn't want me in his life, then I don't need him in my world

I met him at a language course in my country. He seemed like an interesting man. We were seating next to each other and worked together. I slowly started liking him. Than I was told he was 29... and I was 18. But this age difference didn't stop me from liking him. I liked him even more.

We were always laughing, talking about everything. Than we started going out like friends. His company was the only one I loved. I already knew that I was in love with him. He, on the other side, wasn't. I used all of my woman powers to make him fall for me. Sometimes he acted like he was in love with me, other times he acted like an older friend who helps me out. I couldn't understand what was going on in his mind. And I was too afraid to tell him about my feelings.

Time passed and we were still just friends. But than (after a year) he suddenly told me "I think I like you". My mind was showing me a perfect picture - me and him in a beautiful world of love, butterflies and pink clouds. We started dating. But something was going wrong. We didn't have time for each other and we were fighting because of that. I decided it was better if we broke up. He told me "if it's ok with you, let's get back to the friendship we had" and of course I said "ok". And everything seemed back to its normal self. We were hanging out, talking about everything in the world, he was calling me his little genius again and I was happy being able to be with him that way.

But then he suddenly disappeared. I couldn't find him anywhere - he didn't answer his phone, he was never online in skype or facebook, his home was empty. It was like he was dead. The first month I was afraid that something might have happened with him. Then I got used to it - he wasn't in my life anymore. 3 months passed and I still didn't hear anything from him. Then one day I was walking down the street and I saw him. He was coming to me. I was so happy that he was alive and healthy. As he came nearer I smiled at him and he smiled back, but than he passed me by and didn't say a word, as if he was just a stranger. I couldn't understand what was going on. Why was he doing this to me? After that, I saw him a couple of times, but from far away, so I couldn't get to ask him what happened.

But the next time I saw him, I got the answer. I was clothes shopping and on the other side of the line with the clothes was a woman. She was pregnant. I smiled and looked at the shirt I liked again. Than I heard a familiar voice: "Hey, honey, what did you pick... oh that's a nice sweater! It will keep you two warm". I looked at the man saying that and it was HIM! I couldn't believe what I saw... I was so hurt. I never imagined that this will happen to me!

Now, I am fine. I decided that if he doesn't want me in his life, then I don't need him in my world as well. First I wanted to forget about him, but then I decided that I will keep the wonderful moments we had locked up in my heart. When I need it, I will unlock them and remember what we used to have, but than I will keep them locked up nice and save in my heart again and never think about him.



"Don't forget. I'm just a girl standing in front of a boy...asking him to love her."



The best love is the kind that weakens the soul, that makes us reach for more, that plants fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds. And that's what you've given me. That's what I hope to give to you forever.



I love that you get cold when it is 71 degrees out. I love that it takes you an hour and a half to order a sandwich. I love that you get a little crinkle in your nose when you're looking at me like I'm nuts. I love that after I spend day with you, I can still smell your perfume on my clothes. And I love that you are the last person I want to talk to before I go to sleep at night. And it's not because I'm lonely, and it's not because it's New Year's Eve. I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.



To love is to suffer. To avoid suffering one must not love. But then one suffers from not loving. Therefore to love is to suffer, not to love is to suffer. To suffer is to suffer. To be happy is to love. To be happy then is to suffer. But suffering makes one unhappy. Therefore, to be unhappy one must love, or love to suffer, or suffer from too much happiness. I hope you're getting this down.

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GUIDE GOR A WORKING COUPLE

From a Man's Perspective :

Don't take your spouse for granted.

Respect the other person's point of view.

When in doubt be silent or you will regret it later.

Invest in this relationship. You are committed or married and you are also working together or seperately. It can be really meaningfull and rewarding.

Be patient, understanding and listen carefully to what your partner says.

From a Woman's perspective :

Have clarity in what you are saying and trying to do.

Be open-minded and welcoming of your spouse's opinion.

Have patience. It's very important prerequisite to working together.

Have respect for your spouse, even more so in a working relationship. The professional environment should stay professional and respectful.

Discover new things about each other and celeberate the goals you achieve together.

6 new myth-busting rules for singles

I thought I knew a lot about how singles think and feel. After all, I’ve written about dating and relationships for ten years and my name is Singleton (no, not a pen name).

But the surprising and sometimes counterintuitive results from a new study of more than 5,000 single people are making me question my assumptions and take note. Commissioned by Match.com and led by top researchers, this is quite possibly the most comprehensive survey of singles to date.

The findings reveal what I call Singles 2.0, a new breed of men and women who are defying age and gender stereotypes while shaking up their actions and attitudes toward dating. The facts and figures are striking. But how can they help those on the dating frontlines?

Based on the research findings, there are several real-world implications for singles trying to meet their matches.

Check out these six new and myth-busting rules that’ll help you improve your dating life right now!

Rule 1: Approach single men with fresh eyes
In some ways, this new study could be subtitled: “In defense of the unmarried American male.” Single guys, who have long gotten a bum rap for being commitment-phobes and romantically blasé, are evidently misunderstood. The survey makes it clear: don’t buy into these myths. Men fall in love faster, are more eager to have children for the first time (24% vs. 15%), and when it comes to love, feel just as intensely as women do. The most surprising fact about men may be this: “More men than women would marry a partner they weren’t sexually attracted to,” says renowned biological anthropologist Dr. Helen Fisher. “Shared interests and family are more important.”

Rule 2: Stop thinking that single women are clingy and dependent
I’ve heard from numerous single men who fear that clingy women will threaten their independence. Guess what? Study findings reveal that — across every age group — women in a relationship are more likely than men to hold tight to their own interests, personal space, bank accounts, regular nights out with their girlfriends, and separate vacations. So relax, guys. It looks like we’re the ones who should worry about being overly needy.

Rule 3: Join the crowd and expand your dating pool
Prejudice is waning and singles are more open to dates of different races and religions. A relatively small percentage of men (20%) and women (29%) consider it “very important” or a “must have” to find someone who shares their own ethnic background, while even fewer men (17%) and women (28%) are specifically looking for partners who share their religious backgrounds. “Be part of the future,” says Dr. Fisher. “It’s clear that others are getting rid of their past ideas about the right partner.” For many singles, knowing that the tides are turning may free you up to expand your pool of prospects, too.

Rule 4: Whoa, slow down! Don’t rush to judgment about your date
I have nothing against the lucky few who’ve experienced love at first sight. But what about the rest of us who aren’t immediately felled by Cupid’s arrow? We’re used to going out on a first date and not experiencing the 4th of July fireworks we’re told we must have. The research suggests that success comes if you’re not so quick to throw in the towel. So why not slow down next time and give your date a second chance? “Maybe the single most important finding is that 35% of these people fell in love with someone they didn’t initially find attractive,” says Dr. Fisher. Of this subset of people, “71% grew into the attraction through great conversations, shared interests or both.”

Rule 5: Embrace dating as you age
Conventional wisdom holds that dating success and enjoyment are like a milk carton. They come with an expiration date. According to this new study, singles 65+ report the greatest level of happiness over the past 12 months combined with the least stress over their single status. So relax about being single, older, and dating. It turns out that your love life down the road will be better than you think.

Rule 6: Disavow outdated dating obstacles
Remember all the traditional reasons why you weren’t supposed to date someone? He’s not this. She’s not that. Findings indicate that singles are increasingly disavowing what were once considered romantic hindrances. For example:

• Myth: Office romances are taboo. This is undoubtedly true in some places and circumstances. But the relative few who engage in office romance seem to be grown-ups who can handle their love lives in ways that don’t affect their work. After breaking up, 56% reported that the romance didn’t affect their professional relationship and 36% would consider dating someone in the workplace in the future.
• Myth: You’re unemployed and therefore unlovable. Wrong! You’re not a dating pariah. Fifty percent of singles are open to seeing someone unemployed if they found the person interesting.
• Myth: Single parents are alone on Saturday night. Says who? Single parents go on more dates than singles without kids, and more of these moms and dads are currently dating someone, too.

Amid all the surprising findings, a few results seem familiar. For example, despite their independent streak, women still aren’t comfortable asking men out. “I suspect there are certain aspects of courtship that are never going to change,” says Dr. Fisher. Still, it’s hard to deny how dramatically the dating landscape has indeed changed. But I’m happy to embrace changes that keep me optimistic about romance. How about you?

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If someone wants to be part of your life, they'll make an effort to be in it.  ★.

• 
• i just love it when you talk to me with that smile on your face :]

 ♥.When i read ur text messages I can hear exactly how you would say it ♥.



Follow your heart, even though its on your left, its always right

♥.that one person that you can talk to for hours without getting bored ♥ 

Good Life Ways

You can be my best friend only if, A:You are a non-smoker, B: A non-alcoholic person, C: A workohoilc without any expectation for rewards, D: Don't ever tell a lie.

Love Is In The Air

If there anything in this universe that cannot be defined, it is love. If you can describe love, then it is far from the truth. You give flowers, you hug, you prostate, you offer but still something remains unexpressed.

Even if for your whole life you try to express how deep your love is, you cannot express it fully. You can only find a little expression, just a glimpse of it.

There are three types of love: satvik, rajsik and tamsik. Satvik love is that which does not expect anything in return. Rajsik love is the love is the love combined with feverishness and desire to get something back. But Divine love is free from all these three.

Worldly love can be like an ocean has a bottom. Divine love is like the sky which is limitless, infinte. From the bottom of the ocean, soar into the vast sky. When you love somebody, what do you love in them? Do you love their qualities, attributes or the person?

Often love diminishes when our focus is on other people than the person it was on. but Divine love, however, grows every moment.

You never be bored with a person. Every day you spend, you feel the depth is getting even more. Every moment you spend with a saint you feel the relationship is growing deeper and deeper. This kind of love never breaks down; it never diminishes. Divine love is so refined and so subtle, it cannot be expressed; it can only be experienced.

Mysteries cannot be understood; they cannot be explained, but can be lived. 'Sukhshmataram Anubhavarupam', it's a form of experience. You can live it, you can be it, you can shed tears of gratitude, but you cannot express it. You cannot fully share it with anyone.

This love is so unconditional; it does not depend on the behaviour of the other person. It does not deopend on the attributes of the other person. Does not depend on upon what they do to you and what they don't do to you. You are in love because you can't be but in love. You have no choice as it is your very nature. All the seeming disturbances in love, in your life, do not take away your nature, which is pure love, unconditional love.

The ability to recieve genuine love comes with the ability to give love. That's why often you do not know how to respond when someone shows a lot of love. The more you are centred and know know by experience that you are love, the more you feel at home with any amount of love expressed in any manner. Deep inside, you know that love is not an emotion; it is your very existence.