Ways Men Show They Love You

  We all know that men and women are different! One of the major differences is that most men show their affection through their actions not their words. Quite the opposite, most women show their affection through their words. This major difference creates many issues for women who fail to understand men's nature and mentality when it comes to showing their affection. Below is a list of examples how men show their love and affection.

    1.    He includes you in his future plans.

    2.    He doesn't spend money on luxury items, because he thinks they are too expensive. But he would buy a luxury item for you on a very special occasion.

    3.    He won't just go watch TV after dinner, he will take out the trash and wash dishes for you.

    4.    He always tries his best to keep his promises.

    5.    He doesn't mind you using and browsing his computer because he has nothing to hide.

    6.    He encourages you to do anything that pleases you.

    7.    When you are having a mood swing, he will try to comfort and pamper you.

    8.    He is willing to go to a market and buy tampons for you when it is necessary.

    9.    He thinks you are cute when you are acting and being hysterical.

    10.    He is willing to watch a chick flick with you even if he hates it with passion.

    11.    When you told him you are feeling insecure, he will take it very seriously and take actions.

    12.    He hugs you all the time.

    13.    He kisses you all the time.

    14.    When he is having sex with you, it feels like making love.

    15.    He feels sorry when he works overtime because he cannot be with you.

    16.    He tells you "I love you" every single day.

    17.    Everything he does, he does it for you.

    18.    When you are alone you don't feel lonely, because you know his heart is always with you.

    19.    When you are upset, he truly cares about why.

    20.    If he missed your call, he will call you back as soon as he can.

    21.    He doesn't bother you about your past, he lets the past be in the past.

    22.    When he has a business trip, he wants to take you with him.

    23.    He remembers everything you said.

    24.    You look taller than him when you wear high heels, but he doesn't mind.

    25.    He doesn't let you do all the house cleaning, he is more than willing to help.

    26.    When you are sick, he will stay by your side.

    27.    When there is an earthquake he will hold you tight in his arms.

    28.    He thinks you look pretty without makeup.

    29.    When you and him are talking heart to heart, he cries happy tears.

    30.    He gets jealous whenever you are talking to other men.

    31.    When you and him are fighting, he always apologize first.

    32.    He doesn't mind when you try to give him a hickey on his chest.

    33.    He gives you compliments all the time.

    34.    He is willing to spend his leisure time to fix your computer for you.

    35.    When you did something wrong, he tries his best to let it go.

    36.    When there is a long vacation, he will include you in his vacation plan.

    37.    He brings you your favorite flowers.

    38.    He shows you his vulnerable side that his friends never knew about.

    39.    He has your pictures in his cell phone

    40.    When he is sick, he won't let you drink from his glass.

    41.    He remembers your favorite song and movie.

    42.    He calls you by that cute nickname that he gave you.

    43.    No matter what happens, he is always on your side.

    44.    When someone is rude to you, he will stand up and defend you.

    45.    He is willing to go grocery shopping with you, even if you take more than 40 minutes browsing.

    46.    He is willing to go the mall with you, even if it takes hours to find a dress.

    47.    He surprises you with a pair of Celine Dion concert tickets, even though he hates her music with passion.

    48.    He surprises you with a necklace that you always wanted.

    49.    Whenever he is having his favorite dessert, he shares it with you.

    50.    He gets upset when you sleep late, because he worries about your heath more than anything.

    51.    He always holds your hand in public.

    52.    He is willing to carry your purse when your arms are sore, even though he thinks it is embarrassing.

    53.    He doesn't complain when you have gained weight.

    54.    When you arrive late on your date, he still smiles.

    55.    He doesn't yell at you.

    56.    He never lays his hands on you during arguments.

    57.    He compliments you in front of his friends.

    58.    When he is going to hang out with his friends, he invites you to come along.

    59.    When you ask him over and over about his feelings, he doesn't get impatient.

    60.    When you are being paranoid towards his friendship with his female friends, he is willing to explain.

    61.    When you play chess, he always let you win on purpose.

    62.    He won't force you to have sex when you told him you are exhausted from a hard day's work.

    63.    When he goes out with his friends, he will always pack some snacks for you.

    64.    He doesn't turn his cell phone on silent when he is with you.

    65.    When you cook for him, he will finish everything.

    66.    He is willing to watch Sex and City with you, even if he hates with passion.

    67.    He wears the ring you bought for him, everyday.

    68.    He spoils you because he loves you.

    69.    When he doesn't like the way you dress, he will remind you but he never criticizes you.

    70.    He never forgets your birthday.

    71.    He never forgets your anniversary.

    72.    He will always give you something on Christmas and Valentine.

    73.    When you are jealous, he is willing to take time to explain.

    74.    When you and him have an argument, he is willing to back down even if he was right.

    75.    He tells that you are irreplaceable.

    76.    When you are promoted at work, he is happier than you are.

    77.    He never pressures you to do anything you don't want to do.

    78.    He puts your feelings before his own.

    79.    When he is exhausted, he is still willing to listen to your feelings.

    80.    When there is an issue, he is willing to communicate.

    81.    If something comes up and he has to cancel the date, he will make it up to you.

    82.    He doesn't get angry when you miss his call.

    83.    When his mother doesn't like you, he defends you.

    84.    When his mother is being rude to you, he will try to defend you.

    85.    He downloads your favorite music for you.

    86.    When you cancel your date to go out with your girlfriends, he will understand.

    87.    He cuddles you to sleep.

    88.    He kisses you good morning and good night.

    89.    He lets you know that your happiness is his happiness.

    90.    When you have done something wrong, if he forgives you, he will never mention it again.

    91.    He is willing to show he is in a relationship on his Facebook.

    92.    He doesn't mind letting you know his Facebook account password.

    93.    He won't let you carry any heavy object, he will carry it for you.

    94.    When he goes clubbing, he will not go without you.

    95.    When he goes out drinking, he wants you to come along.

    96.    He will always treat you with respect. Even during arguments.

    97.    He will call you on his trip to check if you are doing ok, and to let you know he is ok.

    98.    He doesn't mind when you ask about his work schedule.

    99.    When something wonderful happens, you are the first person he wants to share the good news.

    100.    He showers you with love, tenderness, and patience.

    101.    He is willing to go out his way to please you.

You should consider yourself lucky if your man does most of the above. A good man is hard to find, and when you found one, don't ever let him go! One of the best and most effective ways to make a good man stay is to give him your love, admiration, support, and your genuine appreciation. When a good man shows a woman his true love, a good woman would understand the fine art of give and take, as she will give her man her true love, support and appreciation in return. This is one of the keys to an everlasting love and relationship.

Romantic Hacks for Relationship Ruts and Dilemmas

 So, you've heard of life hacks that will change the way you live. But do you know the relationship hacks that will change the way you love? Thanks to advice from users, I've put together eight of the most romantic ways you can be more thoughtful in your relationship. Read on, and get ready to score some major points with your significant other.
When he isn't spontaneous enough.
"Set yourself a recurring calendar alert that goes off every 26 days. When it goes off, buy your girlfriend/wife flowers. It's a weird enough number that it seems totally spontaneous each time you do it, and she'll never catch on."
When you're really hard to buy gifts for. "
My parents will have been married 47 years on the 20th. This is my dad's hack. Whenever they are out and he sees my mother eye something she likes in a store (a dress or jewelry), he makes a mental note, then returns the next day or week and purchases the item. He then stashes it in a crumpled up brown paper bag either in his dresser or his truck. At Christmas, I get asked to wrap gifts for him and he hands me 10 crumpled bags. My mother is always amazed at how well he knows what she likes." 

When he never notices your new haircut.
"I know a guy who has a standing $10 tip with his wife's hair dresser. He gets a call each time his wife gets her hair cut with a brief description of what was done. Wife walks in the door, he says, 'Honey, did you get your hair done? It's a bit shorter and looks great!' Winners all around."
When you're PMSing.
"Hide chocolate around the house in random places. When girlfriend is PMSing, crampy, hormonal, and miserable and calls at work to complain about feeling terrible, tell her to look behind the silverware tray, under the couch cushion, behind the plant, etc. Instant comfort, and it shows that you care enough to go to the trouble to prevent problems before they happen."When one of you hates PDA.
"I have never been one for public displays of affection. My girlfriend (now wife) is big into PDA. She would often complain that I never told her I loved her in public or shared a kiss or hug. I always held her hand and felt this was enough in public. She disagreed. So my solution was to discreetly show her my feelings by squeezing her hand twice and she would reply with squeezing my hand. I explained to her that two hand squeezes meant 'love you' and three squeezes meant 'love you, too.' This quickly caught on and we have been doing this for eight years now. She hasn't complained yet about lack of PDA. As a bonus, when we married, my wife purchased my wedding ring with 'squeeze squeeze' engraved inside."  

When you have a major f*ck up.
"An exceptionally good time to buy a woman flowers is when she f*cks up. A week after my dad bought a new car my mom scratched up the side of it on a cement pillar in a parking garage. She was obviously mortified. My dad comes home from work like a boss, a dozen roses in his hands. My mom has been telling this story for 20 years now."
When you're having a bad day/argument.
"I write sometimes, usually in large chunks. When I'm feeling inclined to do so I'll write a huge batch of poems in an evening, stash them in my laptop somewhere, and dish them out to her one by one every now and then. We've been dating for two-and-a-half years, and I probably have about 100 or so I still haven't used. She is very pleased, and it usually brightens her day/diffuses angry situations when she receives a nice handwritten note. Even if I'm angry, there's nice words I've written when my head was in a better place."
When you don't feel appreciated.
"From male perspective:

• Have a stash of gifts ready at any moment.

• When she tells you her problems, don't give her advice. Just listen.

• Have a moment of gratitude with her everyday and let her know something about her that you really appreciate."

The secret to desire in a long-term relationship

Ways to Prevent Getting Lost in a Relationship

 

 When you've really settled into a relationship and you've entered that giddy, always happy stage, it's easy to get lost in the bubble that is you and your man. It's a fabulous world containing just the two of you and you can't get enough of it. The problem is, too many of us can get sucked into this alternate universe so hard that we lose sight of what's important in our life besides that special person. Make sure you follow these steps to avoid getting lost in a relationship. 

Set aside me-time

Never forget who the most important person in your world is -- you! In order to be happy you have to indulge in some time for yourself. Spend one night each week doing a hobby you love or just carve out some time to spend alone even if that's just catching up with the Kardashians. It's healthy and vital to staying who you are to continue doing some of the things you'd do when you were single. 

Set aside friend/family time

Make a standing date with your girlfriends every other Saturday or offer to babysit your nephews every Sunday morning. If you carve out and commit to time with your friends and family you won't lose touch with them. These people are your support system and you definitely don't want to lose them.  

Keep working out

If you had fitness scheduled into your routine when you were single, don't rule it out because you're in a relationship. Stay in shape and keep at it -- it's good for both your mental and physical health. 

Set new goals at work

Avoid any slacking at work due to your new gchat habit with your guy by setting some new goals for yourself. Talk to your boss and see what new projects you can take on or find out what you can do to reach that next promotion. 

Keep perspective

Remind yourself that your boyfriend isn't perfect. Sometimes you have to step back from a situation to remain objective and remember that you are individuals. Your guy isn't going to be the only thing that makes you happy in life, so know that you have to keep other things around you to stay happy. 

Communicate

Talk to each other and understand what each person expects out of the relationship. If you have different expectations you're going to need to come to a compromise or trouble lies ahead. Become equal parts in your relationship.

Tips From a Divorced Man After 16 years of Marriage

 Divorce isn't something we talk about much at GirlsGuideTo. I guess it's our sincere optimism and hope that you'll never have to go through something so awful. But the truth is, it happens more often than we'd like to admit, and those people who have been through it have a lot of lessons they've learned from the experience. We came across this inspirational piece by Gerald Rogers today and couldn't wait to share it. He gives amazing advice to married men, but I think a lot of it can apply to married women as well. Check it out:

Obviously, I’m not a relationship expert. But there’s something about my divorce being finalized this week that gives me perspective of things I wish I would have done different… After losing a woman that I loved, and a marriage of almost 16 years, here’s the advice I wish I would have had

1. Never stop courting.Never stop dating. NEVER EVER take that woman for granted. When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be that man that would OWN HER HEART. This is the most important and sacred treasure you will ever be entrusted with. SHE CHOSE YOU. Never forget that, and NEVER GET LAZY in your love.

2. Protect your own heart.Just as you committed to being the protector of her heart, you must guard your own with the same vigilance. Love yourself fully, love the world openly, but there is a special place in your heart where no one must enter except for your wife. Keep that space always ready to receive her and invite her in, and refuse to let anyone or anything else enter there.

3. Fall in love over and over again.  You will constantly change. You’re not the same people you were when you got married, and in five years you will not be the same person you are today. Change will come, and in that you have to re-choose each other everyday. SHE DOESN’T HAVE TO STAY WITH YOU, and if you don’t take care of her heart, she may give that heart to someone else or seal you out completely, and you may never be able to get it back. Always fight to win her love just as you did when you were courting her.

4. Always see the best in her.Focus only on what you love. What you focus on will expand. If you focus on what bugs you, all you will see is reasons to be bugged. If you focus on what you love, you can’t help but be consumed by love. Focus to the point where you can no longer see anything but love, and you know without a doubt that you are the luckiest man on earth to be have this woman as your wife.

5. It’s not your job to change or fix her… your job is to love her as she is with no expectation of her ever changing. And if she changes, love what she becomes, whether it’s what you wanted or not.

6. Take full accountability for your own emotions:It’s not your wife’s job to make you happy, and she CAN’T make you sad. You are responsible for finding your own happiness, and through that your joy will spill over into your relationship and your love.

7. Never blame your wife if you get frustrated or angry at her, it is only because it is triggering something inside of YOU. They are YOUR emotions, and your responsibility. When you feel those feelings take time to get present and to look within and understand what it is inside of YOU that is asking to be healed. You were attracted to this woman because she was the person best suited to trigger all of your childhood wounds in the most painful way so that you could heal them… when you heal yourself, you will no longer be triggered by her, and you will wonder why you ever were.

8. Allow your woman to just be.When she’s sad or upset, it’s not your job to fix it, it’s your job to HOLD HER and let her know it’s ok. Let her know that you hear her, and that she’s important and that you are that pillar on which she can always lean. The feminine spirit is about change and emotion and like a storm her emotions will roll in and out, and as you remain strong and unjudging she will trust you and open her soul to you… DON’T RUN-AWAY WHEN SHE’S UPSET. Stand present and strong and let her know you aren’t going anywhere. Listen to what she is really saying behind the words and emotion.

9. Be silly… don’t take yourself so damn seriously. Laugh. And make her laugh. Laughter makes everything else easier.

10. Fill her soul everyday… learn her love languages and the specific ways that she feels important and validated and CHERISHED. Ask her to create a list of 10 THINGS that make her feel loved and memorize those things and make it a priority everyday to make her feel like a queen.

11. Be present.Give her not only your time, but your focus, your attention and your soul. Do whatever it takes to clear your head so that when you are with her you are fully WITH HER. Treat her as you would your most valuable client. She is.

12. Be willing to take her sexually, to carry her away in the power of your masculine presence, to consume her and devour her with your strength, and to penetrate her to the deepest levels of her soul. Let her melt into her feminine softness as she knows she can trust you fully.

13. Don’t be an idiot…. And don’t be afraid of being one either. You will make mistakes and so will she. Try not to make too big of mistakes, and learn from the ones you do make. You’re not supposed to be perfect, just try to not be too stupid.

14. Give her space… The woman is so good at giving and giving, and sometimes she will need to be reminded to take time to nurture herself. Sometimes she will need to fly from your branches to go and find what feeds her soul, and if you give her that space she will come back with new songs to sing…. (okay, getting a little too poetic here, but you get the point. Tell her to take time for herself, ESPECIALLY after you have kids. She needs that space to renew and get re-centered, and to find herself after she gets lost in serving you, the kids and the world.)

15. Be vulnerable… you don’t have to have it all together. Be willing to share your fears and feelings, and quick to acknowledge your mistakes.

16. Be fully transparent. If you want to have trust you must be willing to share EVERYTHING… Especially those things you don’t want to share. It takes courage to fully love, to fully open your heart and let her in when you don’t know i she will like what she finds… Part of that courage is allowing her to love you completely, your darkness as well as your light. DROP THE MASK… If you feel like you need to wear a mask around her, and show up perfect all the time, you will never experience the full dimension of what love can be.

17. Never stop growing together… The stagnant pond breeds malaria, the flowing stream is always fresh and cool. Atrophy is the natural process when you stop working a muscle, just as it is if you stop working on your relationship. Find common goals, dreams and visions to work towards.

18. Don’t worry about money.Money is a game, find ways to work together as a team to win it. It never helps when teammates fight. Figure out ways to leverage both persons strength to win.

19. Forgive immediatelyand focus on the future rather than carrying weight from the past. Don’t let your history hold you hostage. Holding onto past mistakes that either you or she makes, is like a heavy anchor to your marriage and will hold you back. FORGIVENESS IS FREEDOM. Cut the anchor loose and always choose love.

20. Always choose love. ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. In the end, this is the only advice you need. If this is the guiding principle through which all your choices is governed, there is nothing that will threaten the happiness of your marriage. Love will always endure.

In the end marriage isn’t about happily ever after. It’s about work. And a commitment to grow together and a willingness to continually invest in creating something that can endure eternity. Through that work, the happiness will come. Marriage is life, and it will bring ups and downs. Embracing all of the cycles and learning to learn from and love each experience will bring the strength and perspective to keep building, one brick at a time.

These are lessons I learned the hard way. These are lessons I learned too late. But these are lessons I am learning and committed in carrying forward. Truth is, I loved being married, and in time, I will get married again, and when I do, I will build it with a foundation that will endure any storm and any amount of time.

If you are reading this and find wisdom in my pain, share it those those young husbands whose hearts are still full of hope, and with those couples you may know who may have forgotten how to love. One of those men may be like I was, and in these hard earned lessons perhaps something will awaken in him and he will learn to be the man his lady has been waiting for.

MEN- THIS IS YOUR CHARGE: Commit to being an EPIC LOVER. There is no greater challenge, and no greater prize. Your woman deserves that from. Be the type of husband your wife can’t help but brag about.

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Moments That Make or Break a Relationship

 These are the times when you both show your truest selves. What do you see?

1. The First Time One of You Drives

A car ride together can be many things: a peacock-like display of assets; a show of skill and prowess; a date in itself (if you're 16 or a city dweller with a Zipcar). Whom does he trust to navigate—you, him or that GPS lady? Who do you?

2. The Seconds Following Your First Kiss

When this dalliance flowers into a true-love, toothbrush-sharing situation, that first kiss is going to become the stuff of relationship lore, a creation myth shared with your fascinated/horrified children. Pay attention. You're going to need every detail.

3. The Time He Cooks for You and Fails

4. The Time You Cook for Him and Fail

5. The Parking-Lot Puke of Love

In the beginning, you go out of your way to present the best version of yourself to your potential mate. Bad moods are concealed. Weaknesses avoided. ("Bowling? Oh, no thanks!") So when you punctuate an overly zesty dinner date with throwing up chile rellenos into a parking-lot tree pit, it might be his first chance to see the real, unvarnished, purely-you you. Assuming he doesn't shield his eyes in embarrassed disgust.

6. The First Time You Actually REM-Sleep Together

Sleeping together is one thing. SLEEPING together is another. Here is your future-every-night. So take careful, scientific note of any notable instances of snoring, sleepwalking, larcenous duvet-hoarding and/or drool puddles of unusual size. And then think carefully before accepting that next sleepover-party invitation, or in 10 years you might find yourself sleeping on the sofa wearing earplugs. (And if you're sure he's worth it, take this moment to invest in a really comfy sofa.)

7. When You Meet His Best Friend from Back in the Day...

...and you see a whole new side of him.

8. Attending Your First Wedding as a Couple (Hopefully not Your Own)

Once you've gotten through chicken-or-fish, filibuster-length toasts and doing the YMCA dressed in taffeta with someone, you are essentially war buddies. Well? Would you want to go into buffet-style battle a hundred more times with this guy? If he still seemed charming when your pumps started pinching your feet, it's probably a very good sign.

9. The Moment You're Tempted to Tell a Little White Lie

A white lie is, after all, a lie. What are you really trying to hide?

10. The Talk

At some point, you're going to have to talk about sex. Nobody wants to. But you gotta. And how you talk about it might just inform hundreds of intimate moments down the line, so you both had better be as honest as you can possibly muster. If he's secretly hoping there's a French-maid costume in your shared future, or your interest in 50 Shades of Grey goes beyond writing a book report, and neither of you checks to make sure the other is on board, you're going to end up two not-so-secretly disappointed creatures.

11. Finding the Text from His Ex

The phone vibrates and you automatically pick it up because it looks just like your phone, only what does not look just like your phone is the text that is from Sue—Sue?!—yes, Sue. What matters here is your reaction: Are you shaking, dry-mouthed, certain of betrayal, racing through weeks' worth of texts that are strictly none of your beeswax? Does it make you merely curious to learn more about this man's past? Do you not care at all? Give that feeling as much attention as you do the message itself: It's a whole lot more revealing.

12. Spending the $1,000 You Can't Really Spare

You know what they say: You never forget your first major investment mistake. Maybe it's a bad 401(k) choice or buying a house at the height of the market. Maybe it's just a suddenly scrutinized habit of lending cash to unreliable relatives. Think of this as a mistakortunity! Finances will be discussed. Will they be shared? Or will they remain linked but forever separate, like Lucy and Ricky's twin beds?

13.The First Time Your Baby Doesn't Sleep All Night

Nothing tests a couple's mettle like sleeplessness, that most mundane of all torture devices. You're both raw, and since you've just created an extra human, the stakes are high; but the rewards for reconciliation are oh, so bounteous.

14. When You Run into the One Who Got Away

...and you realize he's just another guy.